Napping – no rest for the weary

In the work world every job, career, business and place of employment have their own set of rules about time off from work. You have a certain amount of vacation days, holidays, floating holidays, family leave time, bereavement time personal days. Most of these types of days that are given to employees can be paid or unpaid leave days. I heard one time from a friend who worked a funeral home that when employees have death in their own family they get no time off or no bereavement time. Also most companies or employers offer some type of sick days for when someone is sick or has to go to the doctor office and or hospital or whatever. I have a question what is the hardest job one could ever do. If you said motherhood or being a mommy ding ding ding you got it right. Now let me ask this question then if all other jobs get all these types of days off or leave time how is it that the hardest 24/7 and 365 days a year job someone could ever do there is no such thing as sick days, time off, leave days or day for naps and resting. I guess if nothing else the expression of ‘no rest for the weary’ applies to to moms and the days in the life of mommy journeying through motherhood better than anything else right.

Ladies can I get an amen on this one, I mean at least for me I know how many times I wish I could say or have said I need a nap and there is no rest for this weary mama. There have been to many days to count that this was the case and I was hoping for a daily small simple saving grace of a nap. Actually as I write this I’m thinking keep writing or go take a nap because I could sure use one right about now. I mean I always make sure as many times and on as many days as possible I make my babies get there naps. My husband gets to take naps. Moreover when our babies are sick we are the best nurses we can be and do any and everything for them. I know for me I also do this for my husband. The funny and interesting thing is that when I get sick this mama doesn’t get a sick day there is no resting, laying down or stopping to do so. I just have to push through and still be everything to everyone whether or not i’m sick or tired. How is this possible that this is the case. I’m also conceived after becoming a mommy that it is so much harder being sick and it takes longer to get well or get over being sick. This is seems so unfair and one of the few things that would be considered in the con or negatives column that mama have to deal with once they enter into motherhood.

It would be truly amazing to be able to rest, take naps, get sick days or vacation days whenever needed. This is definitely wishful thinking and this mama will have to keep dreaming on. Although what seems to be a continuous and reoccurring theme or underlying problem is that for me, and I believe all members of the motherhood club, is us moms struggle to have, get or achiever having these things of sick days, naps, moments of standing still, moments of silence, snacks and taking breaths and so many other elusive rare luxuries. We go on about our business to the best of our abilities and glad to take care and server our family but it a times a struggle to get the things we need to take care of ourselves and ensure we are filled with what we need so that we can keep doing what we do best and love to do for our babies and families. The only solution I have found is that it is easier when you have a loving and supportive family and or friends that understands the importance of this and allows a mama to get what she needs. Then also the other solution is. that if you want it done right do it yourself meaning that some times if not given then we must take those moments for the rare and elusive luxuries we so desperately need. I know for me isn’t so much in struggling with wanting to take or find moments for the rare needed elusive luxuries but not feeling guilty when I do get to a rare and luxurious moment.

I think for us mamas this is a good reminder of the perspective we need to keep in mind as we travel along our journey through motherhood. When we make a choice regardless of what it is if it is one that is made for the purpose or sake of us being able to keep the balance, our center, our sanity thus keep putting forth and giving our best version to our babies and families then we should not feel guilty. We should not punish ourselves for that choice. We should remind ourselves that we are doing and making choices that are good and what is best for us, our babies and families and such choices are not selfish but actually selfless. Moreover thus allowing ourselves to indulge in rare elusive luxuries is a good choice that should be taken free from guilt and we are doing what is best. Self admittedly I need to take my own advice at times. May I always ensure I have moments for taking rare elusive luxuries I need and that are often times my simple daily saving graces. May I also do so free from being riddled with guilt for indulging in luxuries. May we all strive to keep this prospective in mind and may we strive to keep making such good choices that allow for us to keep giving our best to our babies and families as we continue on traveling this journey through motherhood.

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Standing still is oh so sweet, sweet treat

Sitting here as I write this article it is the month of October and finally to start feeling like fall where am at. Also in October one of the funniest and greatest times that kids look forward to is Halloween. In considering the numerous elusive things in the days in my life as a mommy I have to say that one of the greatest treasured treats for me is to have the ability and time or moments to just simply stand still. Although in these crazy days in the life of being a mommy and in life period it can be quite a trick to have time to just simply be and stand still for a moment. We live in a world of constant and continual flow of movement and motion. I feel as if one can be overwhelmed with the continual never ending swirling and whirling current of movement, motion and as if to be pulled in and not easy to swim out of the current of motion of life and busy days. In my journey as a mommy I have found this to be equally if not more so the reality in the life of my days as a mommy.

Ladies think about your own daily routine and schedule I’m quite sure they are much similar to what my days are. I having feeling if I was speaking to you all I would hear several amens and I hear you sister. For me my day should start at 6am although I get up at 6:15 to start getting kids dressed and breakfast and ready to go to the bus for my daughter’s school day. Then i have the day at home with my son and we do veggie tales, play, snack, working on his reading, maybe color or other things like abcmouse.com and then a little tv, then lunch and nap time along with a few other things thrown in there. During nap time is my writing time and maybe, phone calls or other stuff and maybe some housework or whatever else that is needed to be done. Then after nap time it’s to get my daughter off the bus and to do homework, voice lesson, soon basketball and other activities. Then I have to do dinner, bath , story and bed time and prayers. In the midst of all that there is the usual house work, cleaning and laundry. Then by 8pm its finally my time to do my mommy stuff. I don’t know about all of you but that really doesn’t leave much room or time for not moving or standing still. Furthermore I feel as I have days that are a constant and continual swirling whirling wave on never ending motion and movement and that I never can make my way to shore to take a break to catch my breath and come up for air from the swirling whirling current of motion that pushes my day and journey as mommy forward.

In many instances I think to myself when can i just simply stop and take a breathe and have a break to breath. I can’t even imagine time to or the ability of enjoying doing absolutely nothing and doing not one single thing. Furthermore I can’t imagine not having to constantly be juggling, shuffling everything and always having to multi-task every second of my day. The ability to do so would be such a rare elusive luxury to have time to stop, breath, not be in constant or continual swirling whirling current of motion and on the go all the time. I think if could have such moments of time to stand still it could help and be useful for me in catching my balance from the whirring and swirling of my life as a mommy.

It often, at least for me seems impossible at times to have the ability to be able to be still, to have a moment to stop and to take a breathe. You might be sitting there reading this feel the same way and be wondering how am I suppose to do that and find time to do so. I think for me that it is much like the same when trying to grab and carve out the moments of silence that I have for myself in the life in my days as a mommy. I just have to finds ways of taking a moment to breath and be still to slow my roll down, my day and life down. It would be in similar ways that i find the moments of silence that I will find the moments and time to take my breaths. We as mommies must find time to breathe, take our breaks and breaths and to stand still among the constant and continual swirling whirling chaos we call our journeys through motherhood. In doing so we regain our balance, find our focus and then are ready set, go forward with our best version of ourselves for our babies and families. I desire to strive to always give my very best to my babies and family as I continue on this journey of lifetime through my motherhood so I must seek the elusive rare luxuries and treasure them for myself and my babies and family so that they can continually be given the best I can give them. May we as homies always give and offer the best versions of ourselves as we continue on this journey of our motherhood.

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Taking a moment of slience for mommy please

I can remember growing up and my daddy wishing i would be quite more and stop chattering so much at times. I can remember saying to him, especially as I got older, well it’s your fault you two were the ones who decided when I was three to take me to speech therapy because my pediatrician was concerned over my ability to speak and my vocabulary level. So if you din’t want to me talk you should have never taken to speech therapy. It’s so funny to me that we as parent can at time get so tightly wand over things and then when they work out or take place we are like oh my gosh if my child doesn’t fill in the blank. This makes me think as a mommy that there are many expressions that we hear along our journey and there seems to be one that is foreign to children. The expression that comes to mind is that science is golden. Many of you ladies out there may be thinking is also foreign to me after becoming a mommy. I have come to realize that my babies don’t agree or understand and see the gold to be found in being silent.

In my journey as a mommy my babies have followed the expected pattern for speech development my daughter talked sooner and excelled quicker and to this day is a very articulate child. On the other hand my son had the doctors concerned as to his ability and level of speech but I thought I to wait until he turned two because I remember many of my girlfriends who had sons that said it was something about turning two and their boys took off and never looked back. Sure enough that was the case with my son as well and ever since turning two he hasn’t stopped and now he is currently 4. It is totally awesome to me and I absolutely love the chats and conversations I have with my babies and I love to hear what they think, see how there wonderful little minds work, how they see this amazing world and what matters to them. Then again at times if they are both talking at the same or talking to me while I’m trying to do other things especially more than one at a time I think of the gold to be found in silence. Other times I long for this elusive luxury is if I’m on the phone or talking to someone and I wish to do so uninterrupted. Moreover if my daughter is like what were you talking about mommy then I promptly say it was an A and B conversation and C your way out it. For me the reason while I long for at times this elusive luxury is that I miss being to focus, think clearly without always loosing my train of thought and be able to finish my sentence, never mind thought and never the less my point I was trying to articulate or communicate.

It is for these reasonings of wanting to have moments silence and longing for moments of silence or breaks in the chatter we can teach our babies lessons worth learning that are golden. In learning to be silent our babies can learn to be considerate, thoughtful, polite and respectful of others and what others need and need to say. Also the lessons of waiting your turn and have patience can be gained from the instances when our babies need to wait to speak or not interrupt when adults are talking. Also I know for me that when I can get out my thoughts and points and keep one in my head it helps to focus and stay centered. In waiting and letting someone have their turn and having patience our babies can learn the value and importance of being able to focus and concentrate on something and how helpful that can be and that also more can be achieved when focused on something.
People talk about the gold to found at the end of the rainbow as a mommy that is our pot of gold is to have moments of much needed silence. Maybe in the days of our lives as mommies maybe one our daily simple graces to be given this elusive pot of gold filled with moments of silence.

A solution for me in trying to achieve and gain this elusive luxury as a mommy sometimes you have to take what you can get when you can get or do it for your darn self. In my days in the life of being a mommy this may look like taking the moments of silence as they come whether in the early am before my day starts, or late at night before going to sleep. It can also be found in and during nap time or my bath time or on the treadmill working out. Currently for me my parents take the kids to spend time them often and so that gives me alone time and get to rare opportunities for this elusive luxury of enjoying my own pot of gold at the end of my rainbows in motherhood. Also with the elusive pot of gold I find in these moments I can also have the ability and time to focus, think through stuff and have precious and priceless uninterrupted conversation. In wanting and getting these golden moments of silence maybe we can see the mutual immense value to having such moments for ourselves as mommies and what our babies can gain to learn and understand. May I and we as fellow travelers on this journey of motherhood strive to treasure the chats and conversations with our babies but also to teach the lessons of there is much gold in being silent. May we find our own elusive pots of gold that are there to be had at the end of our luxurious rainbows for us to savor and be given even if nothing for our own sanity. Better yet our babies learning the importance and value of the gold to be found in being silence can make our pots of gold eve more valuable, savory, precious and priceless. May we strive to strike the balance between cherishing the chatter of our children and having savory moment of silence. May we and our babies learn that there is a time and place for everything and to see the value to be found in the pots of gold at the ends of each of our rainbows. Through this there is much beauty to behold in our journey through motherhood to treasure as we continue on our journey as mommies with our babies and families. May we always seek and discover the pots of gold to be found at the end our rainbows in our journey through motherhood.

 

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Please, Please oh to pee in peace

 

It has been said that in life that the best things in life are rare and worth waiting for and that good things come to those who wait. This makes me wonder and begs the question so okay so how long do I have to wait for the best things I need and want in my days on my journey as a mommy. I mean come on haven’t I waited long enough and I can’t wait any longer. If I do wait any longer I wont’t make it some days to receive the elusive luxuries I so long for. I’m not even sure that if I can remember the moments in BC years (before children) moments of peacefulness of quite and uninterrupted time and privacy to just simply go pee. Do any of you ladies remember that and what that was like I don’t it was too long ago. One of these day I will be able to remember and enjoy such an elusive luxury I and we ladies and mommies can dream can’t we.

How may times in day, how many days can we all say yes I hear sister and just to have a few moments to just simply go to the bathroom and not only that to do so without interruption. Furthermore to do so without being barraged in on or knocks on the door. Moreover I want to be able to get through using the bathroom without hearing mommy, mommy, mommy I need, I want, can you or guess what I just ….. fill int he never ending blank. I want to at some point not have to feel like I have to wait to midnight to go to the bathroom or even to bath just to do so without being interrupted. I mean why is it that when I just decide to take bath or shower its then and only then, even though my kids had just watched tv or played for 30 minutes without even so much as one mommy but let me get ready to bath then oh my gosh they can’t mange or do without or the world is coming to end. Now granted I get its a little harder expectation to have if you live in a place with just one bathroom like I use too but now with two bathroom I just want to say you can use the other bathroom. Also I can’t remember the last time that when I am out at stores or restaurants or anywhere in public where I didn’t have to take anybody else to the bathroom with me and I could go alone, by myself have privacy and quite to please, please oh to pee in peace.

In my contemplation of this elusive luxury that eludes me for so long in my days as a mommy I think it brings up some interesting points and questions for much motherhood food for thought. I think it is a reminder of just exactly how much we as mommies have to give and do so gladly for our families and the amount sacrifice motherhood involves. Although it also brings to mind the constant battle and immense struggle that is experience in motherhood by most of us ladies. As mommies and women there isn’t nothing we wouldn’t do for our babies and families. Most would say they would take a bullet, go through hell and back or to the end of the earth for their babies and families and die for their babies it would save their babies and families, In doing that out of the best labour of love we exhaust ourselves and completely empty and deplete ourselves and cups with nothing left. So where is the balance act between giving it all and yet finding the time to do even the simplest things for ourselves that we can refuel and replenish so that we can be the best movies for our babies and families who love more than life itself. Moreover how to find the balance without a huge helping of guilt left on the plates of our motherhood for just simpling wanting to have privacy and uninterrupted time to attend to me and my needs.

The answer to this, although harder said then done most times and for most of us ladies, lies in a few things. It lies in the realization of that in actuality that in us finding the time as mommies to get our elusive luxuries and attend to our needs we are being selfless and not selfish as often thought. You may be thinking hold on now we are the mommies, adults and care givers and care for all, true but think of it this way. If we truly want to be the very best version of ourselves for all, our babies and families then we have to make sure we can offer our best ourselves and have much to give. If we are empty, depleted, run down, burned out or exhausted there is noting to give so we cant give what we want to give to our families and babies. Moreover in taking time to do this for ourselves, babies and families we are teaching our babies the importance of waiting, having patients, caring for others and being mindful of other needs and not always being centered on self. The answer to achieving this prioritizing and managing our time and making wise choices in use of our time and prioritizing what to do with that time. Also thought in all this it more easily done with a great support system around us that will help remind us to do for ourselves and that sees the immense value and essential need of this taking place. Along this journey of motherhood we must not loose ourselves along the way. We must care for ourselves so that we can always give our best for those who we love and give the best version of ourselves. May we always find, grab and savor the elusive luxuries. May we always ensure we are our best we can be for ourselves, our babies and our families. May we always go forward with putting our best foot forward in our motherhood by always striving to our best and give in our best to our babies and families who we love more than life itself.

 

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A snack, a soak, sleep and sex catch while you can with two

Ladies come get your sleep, snacks, sips, soaking and sex, come get it while it’s here going once, going twice, mama it’s going fast best catch them while there here going a third time. Oops sorry their gone, gone, gone you have had missed your chance for getting more sleep, a snack, sip or soak and sex. Let me see a show of hands of how many of us gals, wives and mothers feel as if we forever and always running, catching things on the run, doing everything on the go and can’t stop to catch our breath much less anything else. I know as a women, wife and mommy I do and that I always feel as if I have had to make choices between things and how to use and spend my time. I felt this way after becoming a mommy with the birth of my daughter but I couldn’t even begin to imagine how much this would be the case and I would feel this with having two babies. The inability to catch a breathe or always chasing and running after things I have been given. a double shot. Yes, there is no getting around choices that is what life is all about and made up of constant choosing between things but as a mommy of two babies why should I have to choose between the very basics of survival and feeling human or like a women especially now more than ever when I need such essential basics for my survival.

This calls for some truth or dare on my part and I will chose truth. The truth is in my own journey as a mommy I can think of numerous and endless examples or times where I was choosing or felt like I had to choose between doing or getting my basic need as a human being, or at least what made me feel more human, attended to and meet. For better or worse or scary I can remember the longest going without a chance to bath was 10 to 12 days. This most extreme example came during the semester of graduate school when I was working on my thesis and my son was 4 months old and not sleeping through the night yet it was rough and most challenging that semester. If you have read my bio and know I lived in New Hampshire and no my not bathing was not a result of power outages due to bad storms in the winter. I can remember on many occasions having to wait to eat until later in the am after being up for several hours. I also have made personal choices to instead of taking the chance to nap or bath I would think no I need to use this time to get ahead and on top of the cleaning or the laundry.

Until June of 2016 I would even have to say no I could use this chance to do school work and then while the kids are out with their daddy clean instead of going out with everyone. Another example of the choices I have felt like I had to make is not go work out on numerous occasions and stay to clean or do homework. I have felt like that I was always trading for instance to do house and or school work but miss out on gym or family time. Enjoy family time but get behind on my house or school work and so forth. For me its seemed to be the this constant shuffling of and juggling of family, school or my mommy duties. Then again I would be so tired from all this juggling and shuffling and feeling immense need for sleep but I snoozed then what else was I let sliding. In my shuffling and juggling of things and trying to choose or make my choices it often came down to simply happening in the ruin of things and everyday life and there just isn’t enough seconds in the minutes of the hours in my day.

Perviously I discussed the choosing and deciding how we use and spend our time and how we prioritize these choices and decisions here I really want to focus on how actually does one go about making and organizing the choices and priorities. The ability to do this become even more crucial, critical and invaluable to me now that I am a mommy of two and more work to do with less time to do in. For some it’s a major struggle and not so much for other and for other to include myself it’s a struggle and challenge because of my own personality and feelings of the need to do it all even though I may know how to organzine and prioritize. It is at this point I would like to share how and what helped me prioritize and organized so that I could choose more wisely and have better balanced usage of my time. Thus not letting my time get away from or make sure I could catch my elusive luxuries of sleep, snacks, sips, soaks and sex as often as possible. I admit it is definitely a struggle and challenge for several reasons mainly my personality and belief I have to do all for everyone and be all to everyone. Also my wanting to do and give my utmost and my best for all because of my deep love and passion for my family and babies. For me if I feel torn between I need to be doing this but yet I need to also being do this such as like spending time with family and my babies yet I have house and school work too I had a really hard time with that.

There were things I discovered in my journey of this constant shuffling and juggling that help me focus my thinking so I could organize and prioritize. For me, my family and babies absolutely have always and will always came first and I try and do try my very best to ensure they were put first. In putting my family and babies first I would think if I do house or school work instead of spending time with my babies and family what was I giving up or is this an instance were it was truly okay for me to take a pass this time knowing next time I wouldn’t miss out. This usually looked like if I had a major term paper due that weekend I would stay home or if it was just a weekly post I would go. House work almost always was in third at the bottom of my list especially if it was outside of the daily surface type cleaning. Next I would decide what absolutely had to be done in my day and could not be put off until tomorrow. Then I would think what can wait to until tomorrow or not be a thing if not done in the same day.

The reason for this question is to remind me that most of my mommy duties aren’t goin g any where and will be awaiting for me tomorrow and for the here and now my babies won’t always be the age they are and won’t always be here in my home asking for mommy come spend time. I want to never put anything above those special amazing fleeting moments. I want to always treasure and cherish the time I have with them now. These are the things that guided and still guide my thinking on how to prioritize or how and what I spend my precious time on. After looking at the reality of my own truth of my journey as a mommy here comes the dare part to this constant choosing, making choices and prioritizing our time as women, wives and mommies. There are a few reasons why we should take the dare and strive to choice and prioritize wisely. In striving to keep the balance we will have more time to take our own sips, snacks, sleep, soaks and sex and not miss out on these things. We will, or at least I do, feel more centered, balanced and sane when not missing out on these basics that help me to feel more human and a like a women. I know I am less stressed, less frazzled and are better able to focus on the important, priceless, precious things of being in the moments with my babies and family. Also I’m able to give more and give a better me to my babies and family. Thus is my goal I’m trying to achieve is to give my best then so I should dare to always strive to catch my sips, snacks, sleep, soaks and sex as much and as often as possible so through prioritizing and choosing wisely in my use of my time I am being my best. I will be able to build and give my babies a strong and steady house of cards of motherhood one made of steadfastness, courage, love, strength and beauty. May we all strive to dare to do so for ourselves, babies and families as we journey as mommies.

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Push the Replay button please

I’m a great lover of music and have a very diversified and eclectic taste in music. There are some songs and artist I could listen non stop and all the time and then there are others not so much. One of the most interested and unexpected songs and musical combinations in music was about 2004 between Tim McGraw and Nelly entitled “Over and Over again”.This reminds me of what I think and feel at times in my daily life as a mommy. I mean I feel like I’m a broken record singing the same song over and over again. It makes me wonder if I should set up a tape recording and keep hitting the replay or the play back button of all my mommyisms that I say on a daily base all day along over and over again.

Think about it ladies how many times do you and I catch ourselves saying the same things to our babies all day every day. Its’s like the annoying song you get stuck in your head all day and that is all your hear. I for one get annoyed and tired of saying the same thing over and over again and repeating myself. For example this could be anything like focus its time to eat, do your homework or get ready for whatever. It could be pick your toys and things and put them where they belong and put your plate up in the sink. Another broken record that gets played a lot is use your words, use your tools and figure it out. Other same songs that are heard in my home are i’m on the phone, hold on, give me a minute, one thing at a time and this is an A and B conversation C your way out of it. I often wonder if I sound like a broken record as much as I feel that I’m a broken record. Also I wonder if our babies get totally assumed or thinks totally funny that we can sound like parrots so much of the time as we repeat ourselves over and over again. If so do our babies get equally as tired and annoyed to hear the same thing over and over again as we get as mommies in saying them.

Then this makes me think well if you did what was asked of your or you were told to do neither one of us would be annoyed or get tired of the broken record or same song over and over again because I wouldn’t have say it and you wouldn’t have. hear it again because you did what you were asked or told the first time. So in way the kids don’t have the right to be annoyed and its only us as the mommy that can be annoyed because we aren’t being listened too and have to waste our own breath all the time. This is what I think leads to the bigger problem that causes the annoyance is that we feel we aren’t ever being listened too and that we have no voice or that our voices are never heard in our own homes. You may ask me or be thinking so what is the solution and sadly and unfortunately I don’t know because I still feel this way and struggle with having to be a broken record and playing the same song over and over again. If you ever figure out the answer or solution please contact me and let me know for it’s most and incredibly frustrating to feel as if you have no say or voice in your own home or with your own family isn’t though. The reason I feel this frustration and annoyance is that as a mommy I’m saying the things I say because I’m trying to teach and train my babies and what they need to learn because I love them and want the best for them. I fear when they don’t listen they won’t learn, then they won’t be prepared for what they need in life, then they can’t do what is asked of them in life and they won’t be able to have happy, healthy, safe, fulfilling and good lives.

As I sit and write this article the only things that I can offer you, my follow travelers along this journey of motherhood, and myself is this maybe its is a age or stage thing being that my babies are currently 4 and 7 and that as they get older it will be easier for them as they grown in ability to understand. Secondly, which I confess I have to work on for myself as well in my own journey and it is much more easily said then done. In my annoyance and frustration is to work on trying to be more patient and understanding and not so frustrated. Also I know I will have days where I do better in my efforts and will be have more mommy mountaintop moments and there will days where not so much and will have my mommy valley moments. I can only try to do better and maybe in striving to do better I will provide a better example of being more patient and understating to my babies and hopefully they can learn how to be more patient and understanding of others. I must remember that I as their mommy their first and best teacher of how I wish and hope my babies to be and grow as individuals and prepare for their own life journeys. May I always strive to be more patient, understanding and the mommy that demonstrates what I hope my babies to be in their own lives and journeys. May we as mommies always strive to demonstrate and build our houses of motherhood on the foundation of patients and understating as we journey forward in motherhood.

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Use Your Words

Use your words

One of my most common used and stated mummyism was inspired by what my babies watch on tv. In two of my babies favorite programs of Daniel Tiger and Super Why on PBS each show had an episode where they talked about using your words. In both tv programs the point of this lesson and episode was to help kids correctly identity, express and communicate themselves and their feelings, emotions and thoughts through using their words. Using our words carefully, correctly and wisely is a most invaluable lesson for both babies sand mommies. There is much the can be gained and learned from this lesson the can serve us all well in our journey through life if we learn this lesson. Also though as I and we journey through our own journeys as mommies in motherhood there is much value that can be found in this lesson as well.

As a mommy I have found myself saying this to my babies countless times to ‘use their words’. This comes up all the time in my life in my day as their mommy. One example of this can be when they are trying to tell me something but aren’t making any sense because they aren’t using their words, speaking clearly or using the right words to describe, explain and express what they are trying to tell me. Also another great example that seems to come often with siblings is what they say or how they use their words with each other. I want my babies to learn to use nice, sweet, kind, encouraging, true, pure, polite, respectful words with each other and also how they say their words to each other as the saying goes if not what you say but how you say. The other important part to using your words that I want my babies to learn is learning how to be thoughtful and choosing carefully what and how they say or speak their words to each other and other people.

It also can be said that actions speak louder than words so this got me thinking how can I teach my babies this lesson of using and choosing your words and how to say them. Moreover I wondered where is there a lesson to be learned for me as a mommy as to using my words and choosing what and how I use my own words as a mommy. If I expect my babies to use and chose nice, sweet, kind, encouraging, true, pure, polite, respectful words then also I must myself demonstrate the very thing I want them to learn. I must be mindful of my own use of words, my own word choice and how I use, choose and speak words when I talk to my babies. I must as well use and speak words that are nice, sweet, kind, encouraging, true, pure, polite, respectful when I speak to my babies. I must be thoughtful and conscientious in the words I speak. I want to strive to chose encouraging and uplifting words to use and speak to my babies. I must also consider not just what I say but how I say it. This arguably could be the harder if not the hardest part in the expression use your words. Part of being wise in our word usage and choice is how we say them. I must consider my tone the way I speak the words i use it is sweet or harsh, kind or mean, helpful or harmful. How often do I yell, I know for me that’s a huge one, are my words aggressive instead assertive and firm. In speaking do I speak with a sweet, quite assuring but firm tone. Do I yell at them in public or do I take them off to the side and speak privately with my babies another hard one for me. The words I speak are they harmful, hurtful and negative or are the words I speak helpful, encouraging, uplifting and positive. I can’t teach the truth of the lesson of using your words to my babies if I don’t myself do the same with my babies on a daily basis.

Here is a moment of mommy truth and confession yes i’m not perfect and have my days and or moments where I did not do the greatest in my usage, choice and manner in saying my words. Do i struggle with this as a mommy yes absolutely and will i make more mistakes in the future yes. The lesson of using your words are they hard absolutely they are. Although I think while we need to strive to use and choose our words wisely we also need to know how and when to fix things and make them right in the instances that I and we don’t make the wisest of choices in using and choosing our words which is equally as valuable if not more so then when we do make the great wise use of and choices in our words that we speak to our babies. In my journey as a mommy I hope that I will always strive to say, use and choose the right, sweet, kind, wise, helpful, encouraging, uplifting, and positive words with the correct tones as well. May we always as mommies strive to speak words that are nice, sweet, kind, polite, respectful and what is good, what is pure, what is right and speak helpful, encouraging, uplifting and positive to our babies and over their lives and we journey on as mommies and as our babies journey on in their own journeys in life.

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