A New New Year’s

A new year. is fast approaching and we find ourselves looking to the close of 2017 and looking to the new year of 2018’s beginning being upon us. Brought with the coming of the New Year brings much reflection upon the past year and for most in anticipation for what might or will come in the new year. There is much celebration and cheer of the new and what has been. In reflection upon all these things and my own past 2017 and beginning of 2018 I have to wonder what to do with a new kind of New Year. I don’t know what to hope for or to expect for all that has and is to come is a new that is not my new or of my choosing. How does one move into the new when it is not the new that was or is wanted, hoped for, expected, or even could been imagined. How does one move forward with or into the new that are changes that are not my new and I can’t see the new or what is to be hoped for or anticipated in this new year of 2018.

My 2017 was beginning as in the normal cheerful, joyful and happy new year fashion that one hopes for and expects and continued on this manner until almost 9 months ago. My world unexpectedly turned upside down, inside out and was shattered and in a split second was a new new that was not my choosing and would never be my happy new that started in 2017. It was a perfect day that went on the normal fashion withe every thought and expectation that it would end with my love to come home as he did every day in our lives living our life together hand in hand, side by side in love. I would find myself this night with the new new that I didn’t not imagine or could have dream of. In a split second I discovered that my love gone, my heart, my life, dreams and world and family to be broken, shattered and never ever to be the same. Since I have journey on almost 9 months in that time almost 39 weeks and 271 days in this new new to now only have to start 2018 moving forward still uncertain, fearful, shattered and broken and unsure of what to hope for, anticipate and expect as the new year unfolds. I know not what will this year holds for me or what to expect or look for for me and my babies as we journey on. I have been given a blank canvas but how can I know how to move my brush with what strokes to create a mural that I know not what is it to look like. How do I strive to proceed in my journey or design of this mural if I did choose or wish for this new canvas on which I ‘ve been ask to paint. How can I paint what I don’t know, see, imagine or understand.

In theses reflections I sit hear with the usual goals for 2018, better health, better finances, and work goals such as teaching and writing but other than these simple things what is 2018 to be for me and my babies. Our 2018 what is it to be or the mural of our lives how it to be created and what will be the result of the journey in which we travel to create this new mural. Where will this new journey takes us or where will the strokes we paint with our brush upon this canvas lead us. In 2018 what should I and my babies hope for, expect, anticipate and seek out over this next new new year to come. In pondering there are endless question filled with much uncertainty and without answers that are now were to be found or can be seen as 2018 begins. What will I be reflecting upon and writing about this time next year as I reflect back on this past new year will it be answers that where found. Will this new mural be filled with answers that gave clarity and certainty for me and my babies to these questions and as we journey forward 2018. What will we find as we journey into this new new year of 2018.


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My Colorful Mural by my own Design

Questions of without answers, questions of uncertainty and without clarity, questions of complex nature are swirling and whirling and come to mind in this moment as I sit here staring at this clean, blank new canvas as if it is a page beggiging the writer what will you write upon me. I hold my brush asking where to begin and how should I begin. I wonder what should be done, what shall I design or what should be portrayed on this canvas that sits before me waiting to be covered and filled with my own mural. As words strung together create the sentences that create the paragraphs that create the page that create the chapters of the story to be told of one’s life so will each stroke this brush illustrate the picture I’m now designing as I journey forward.

In my contemplation of the work of art I’m striving to create I wonder with every stroke what will be created from the compilation and composition of all the strokes use to create my picture by my own design. I must wonder what if my stroke is wrong, what if my strokes are made in the wrong direction, what if the stroke of my brush is to bold, to broad, to narrow, to swift, to labored how will this influence the picture I wish to create and portray. What will come of from the strokes of my brush that are to blended, to even, not meshed well, not blended enough. How will my own design appear if the strokes are to textured or not textured enough. I stop and consider what if my own work of art is not as it should be or expected to be as has been demonstrated before me. If my own mural is found to not be as it should what does the mean or say.

In continuing work on my work of art and seeing my art taking shape form and out of each swirling, whirling and twirling sweeping turn and stroke of the brush the answers to my questions become clear, simple, and certain. In life even in moments, times or seasons of uncertainty, complexity, lacking clarity and when amidst complete wreckage and brokenness and not knowing how to mend or how could there ever be beauty out of this sea of ashes I saw with every stroke of my brush how it was creating a work of art even though on the clear, clean and new blank canvas it was unclear as to how a work of art could ever be illustrated or created. It was in and through starting the process of just sampling moving the brush across the canvas with each stroke that ever slowly but surely the work of art I was striving to create was gradually coming clear and into focus and coming together. Yes strokes were made, then not made and then made again. I made and will make clean and then messy strokes. I may move my brush imperfectly and imprecisely with wide, bushy, spotty, splotchy, drippy to hard not soft, swift and then dragging movement of the bristles of my brush on my canvas. Strokes were made filled with precision and colors of great ease, strength, confidence and assurance but equally strokes were taken with much hesitation, fear, worry, anxiousness concern for what if I’m not doing this right what I’m creating wrong strokes to end up with portrait that is filled with chaotic, wrong or ugly colors of destruction, sadness or bitterness. What in my making of my strokes they are made imperfectly. Then as I continued to make each stroke I could see how which each and every stroke I was creating the same portrait but yet created uniquely to my own design, style and likening and it was my own colorful design.

We may not choose our own type of canvas or the materials of the canvas which we are given but as the artist of our own mural we can choose the colors, style, techniques in which we choose to create our own design of our mural. There is no master plan to create what we design on the canvas in which we were given for we all are given different canvas and materials to create to convey our own mural. It is in the process of creating that the beauty that is to beheld is found by us. I hold my own brush, I determine the strokes which I chose to make across my own blank canvas and choose to design the mural of my own creation. May I learn to to free in strokes I make. May I learn to embrace the process through which I can be free to create my own beautifully colorful mural. AIt is up to us to seek, find and see the beauty created for it is we and we alone that are given our own special, specific and unique materials and canvases to create the work of art we which illustrate, convey and design for ourselves and lives. With every stroke of my own brush may I see the beauty to found in my own colorful mural.


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My Christmas Wish

My Christmas Wish

I wish I may, I wish I might this night on this Christmas star so bright but what I wish can’t ever be and never will be again. The wishes that I wish on this Christmas star are to many to count. I wish for times gone by that will never be again. I wish for times of happiness, joy, and laughter shared with you. I wish for the times that brought the brightness and sparkle in my life. I wish for this to have never changed. I wish for all the endless things to be with you and not missed out on by you, us, the babies and our family that we were to have with you together. I long for the memories to continue and to continue being made with you. I long for the memories we shared. I wish to journey forward on with you and us side by side walking hand in hand all of my days to be with you. I wish to share in the life we had together and for all my days to be filled with you. Although I know you are home this Christmas I wish to know that you are and to have you home for Christmas with us, I wish to have the greatest present ever given to me everyday of my life to enjoy all of my days.

I know the wishes that fill the hearts of our precious babies are the same.
I wish to see the smiles and glimmer in their eyes to know they were with their beloved daddy. The expression of joy and delight that shined in their sweet faces when they were with you and being held by you, giving and having hugs and kisses. The smiles of pure joy for them to spend time with you they and I long for. We long for the happiness that was found in being with you in all we did as a family. Our family spot is not the same without. Our home is not the same without you here. In picking our tree all I could see was what it was to pick it with you in years gone by. I wish for the Christmas mornings we shared with you and that we could be with you this Christmas morning. How can there ever be a family picture agin when you won’t ever be in them again. I wish not for this for all this is wrong for you are with us and we are not with you and aren’t all together. Our hearts are forever broken and shattered to never to be the same.

I wish for our bean to have fishing trips with you and daddy daughter dates. I wish for the times where she would be surprised and so happy when you would be there waiting to pick her up at the bus stop after school. I miss her joy and excitement when she knew you were with her on her school field trip. I wish for the time when she would crawl up in your lap for daddy snuggles. I wish for no new learnings or new discoveries or milestones to be missed by you. I wish that our princess to know the example of who you were and so she know who to grow to love for her own life. I wish for her to see what is to be seen as captivating and beloved by her prince I wish for you dance with your princess and on her special day to dance to Cinderella as you always did. I wish for you to walk with her along her journey and see her grow into the wonderful and beautiful women she will become. I wish for her to know her father and remember you always and never to forget your love for her your sweet precious princess.

I wish for our sweet blonde superman to always know how incredible super you were and I wish for them to know the hero you truly were. I wish for you to be able to do amazing father son things with our dinosaur boy and teach him to be wild at heart and journey forward being wild at heart to live the adventure, fight the battle and seek the beauty of his heart and eye. I wish for no new learnings or new discoveries or milestones to be missed by youI long for him to know how to become the man you were and he is suppose to be. I wish for you to see all that he will become and grow into the handsome and amazing man he will become. I long for all the things that he will do and experience to be done with you and his travels his own journey. I wish for him to always know his father and remember and never to forget your love for him your sweet precious baby boy.

I wish for things that could have been but are snuffed out forever never to be had by you, me, us, our babies and our family. I wish for the dream of you retiring and having your life long dream of fulfilling your 20 in service to this country and then us moving to the next chapter in our journey as family. I long for journey of raising our babies together and having a lifetime together as a family and seeing what was to unfold for our family. I long for the dreams of traveling and showing our babies this life and world and helping find their own ways in it with both of us. My heart longs for all these things and wishes for so much more never to be fulfilled.

I wish for the times we were a couple and as one. I wish for the times and memories to continue. I wish to know the happiness I had and knew with you. I wish for my heart not be broken and shattered into so many pieces that cant not ever be made whole. I wish for to be with you again. I wish to be laying on your chest and hear and feel your heart beating once more as I lay next to you in your arms. I wish to be walking hand in hand side by side journey forward and to always accompany you. I wish for the sight of your face, smile and the glimmer of your beautiful almond brown eyes that I could get lost in forever. I long to be by your side in your arms and laying next to you. I long to hold you and to be held by you. I long for your sweet comforting embrace. I long for a lingering kiss under the mistletoe or just to feel and touch you again with a kiss.I long to gently, softly and sweetly to touch and crease you again and to be by you and find myself embraced by your hug knowing I’m home and place was with you for home is where the heart is. I long for my heart and home to be with you always and forever. I wish to hear your voice and hear you say I love you my beautiful and to say and hear sleep well, sleep tight sweet dreams and sweet kisses my love as we drift away to dream land. Maybe that is my wish to be in a dream land were we can meet again and be together once more forever and always. I wish for our talks and chats as we would sit. I wish for our life and doing life together. I yearn for the dreams we dreamed to be of all our adventures and journey we wanted to take together around the world and in life. I dreamed of the chances not taken and missed out on such as Berlin, Belfast and so many countless more. I long to be your Allie, Ruth and Red Rose all my days. I long for you my Boaz, Noah and my love always forever. Always and forever will I love you and long for you and miss you with all my heart, with every breath I take and for all my days will I be yours. I wish to have the greatest present ever given to me everyday of my life to enjoy all of my days.
These are the Christmas wishes of my heart I wish for you and you alone.



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Napping – no rest for the weary

In the work world every job, career, business and place of employment have their own set of rules about time off from work. You have a certain amount of vacation days, holidays, floating holidays, family leave time, bereavement time personal days. Most of these types of days that are given to employees can be paid or unpaid leave days. I heard one time from a friend who worked a funeral home that when employees have death in their own family they get no time off or no bereavement time. Also most companies or employers offer some type of sick days for when someone is sick or has to go to the doctor office and or hospital or whatever. I have a question what is the hardest job one could ever do. If you said motherhood or being a mommy ding ding ding you got it right. Now let me ask this question then if all other jobs get all these types of days off or leave time how is it that the hardest 24/7 and 365 days a year job someone could ever do there is no such thing as sick days, time off, leave days or day for naps and resting. I guess if nothing else the expression of ‘no rest for the weary’ applies to to moms and the days in the life of mommy journeying through motherhood better than anything else right.

Ladies can I get an amen on this one, I mean at least for me I know how many times I wish I could say or have said I need a nap and there is no rest for this weary mama. There have been to many days to count that this was the case and I was hoping for a daily small simple saving grace of a nap. Actually as I write this I’m thinking keep writing or go take a nap because I could sure use one right about now. I mean I always make sure as many times and on as many days as possible I make my babies get there naps. My husband gets to take naps. Moreover when our babies are sick we are the best nurses we can be and do any and everything for them. I know for me I also do this for my husband. The funny and interesting thing is that when I get sick this mama doesn’t get a sick day there is no resting, laying down or stopping to do so. I just have to push through and still be everything to everyone whether or not i’m sick or tired. How is this possible that this is the case. I’m also conceived after becoming a mommy that it is so much harder being sick and it takes longer to get well or get over being sick. This is seems so unfair and one of the few things that would be considered in the con or negatives column that mama have to deal with once they enter into motherhood.

It would be truly amazing to be able to rest, take naps, get sick days or vacation days whenever needed. This is definitely wishful thinking and this mama will have to keep dreaming on. Although what seems to be a continuous and reoccurring theme or underlying problem is that for me, and I believe all members of the motherhood club, is us moms struggle to have, get or achiever having these things of sick days, naps, moments of standing still, moments of silence, snacks and taking breaths and so many other elusive rare luxuries. We go on about our business to the best of our abilities and glad to take care and server our family but it a times a struggle to get the things we need to take care of ourselves and ensure we are filled with what we need so that we can keep doing what we do best and love to do for our babies and families. The only solution I have found is that it is easier when you have a loving and supportive family and or friends that understands the importance of this and allows a mama to get what she needs. Then also the other solution is. that if you want it done right do it yourself meaning that some times if not given then we must take those moments for the rare and elusive luxuries we so desperately need. I know for me isn’t so much in struggling with wanting to take or find moments for the rare needed elusive luxuries but not feeling guilty when I do get to a rare and luxurious moment.

I think for us mamas this is a good reminder of the perspective we need to keep in mind as we travel along our journey through motherhood. When we make a choice regardless of what it is if it is one that is made for the purpose or sake of us being able to keep the balance, our center, our sanity thus keep putting forth and giving our best version to our babies and families then we should not feel guilty. We should not punish ourselves for that choice. We should remind ourselves that we are doing and making choices that are good and what is best for us, our babies and families and such choices are not selfish but actually selfless. Moreover thus allowing ourselves to indulge in rare elusive luxuries is a good choice that should be taken free from guilt and we are doing what is best. Self admittedly I need to take my own advice at times. May I always ensure I have moments for taking rare elusive luxuries I need and that are often times my simple daily saving graces. May I also do so free from being riddled with guilt for indulging in luxuries. May we all strive to keep this prospective in mind and may we strive to keep making such good choices that allow for us to keep giving our best to our babies and families as we continue on traveling this journey through motherhood.

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Standing still is oh so sweet, sweet treat

Sitting here as I write this article it is the month of October and finally to start feeling like fall where am at. Also in October one of the funniest and greatest times that kids look forward to is Halloween. In considering the numerous elusive things in the days in my life as a mommy I have to say that one of the greatest treasured treats for me is to have the ability and time or moments to just simply stand still. Although in these crazy days in the life of being a mommy and in life period it can be quite a trick to have time to just simply be and stand still for a moment. We live in a world of constant and continual flow of movement and motion. I feel as if one can be overwhelmed with the continual never ending swirling and whirling current of movement, motion and as if to be pulled in and not easy to swim out of the current of motion of life and busy days. In my journey as a mommy I have found this to be equally if not more so the reality in the life of my days as a mommy.

Ladies think about your own daily routine and schedule I’m quite sure they are much similar to what my days are. I having feeling if I was speaking to you all I would hear several amens and I hear you sister. For me my day should start at 6am although I get up at 6:15 to start getting kids dressed and breakfast and ready to go to the bus for my daughter’s school day. Then i have the day at home with my son and we do veggie tales, play, snack, working on his reading, maybe color or other things like abcmouse.com and then a little tv, then lunch and nap time along with a few other things thrown in there. During nap time is my writing time and maybe, phone calls or other stuff and maybe some housework or whatever else that is needed to be done. Then after nap time it’s to get my daughter off the bus and to do homework, voice lesson, soon basketball and other activities. Then I have to do dinner, bath , story and bed time and prayers. In the midst of all that there is the usual house work, cleaning and laundry. Then by 8pm its finally my time to do my mommy stuff. I don’t know about all of you but that really doesn’t leave much room or time for not moving or standing still. Furthermore I feel as I have days that are a constant and continual swirling whirling wave on never ending motion and movement and that I never can make my way to shore to take a break to catch my breath and come up for air from the swirling whirling current of motion that pushes my day and journey as mommy forward.

In many instances I think to myself when can i just simply stop and take a breathe and have a break to breath. I can’t even imagine time to or the ability of enjoying doing absolutely nothing and doing not one single thing. Furthermore I can’t imagine not having to constantly be juggling, shuffling everything and always having to multi-task every second of my day. The ability to do so would be such a rare elusive luxury to have time to stop, breath, not be in constant or continual swirling whirling current of motion and on the go all the time. I think if could have such moments of time to stand still it could help and be useful for me in catching my balance from the whirring and swirling of my life as a mommy.

It often, at least for me seems impossible at times to have the ability to be able to be still, to have a moment to stop and to take a breathe. You might be sitting there reading this feel the same way and be wondering how am I suppose to do that and find time to do so. I think for me that it is much like the same when trying to grab and carve out the moments of silence that I have for myself in the life in my days as a mommy. I just have to finds ways of taking a moment to breath and be still to slow my roll down, my day and life down. It would be in similar ways that i find the moments of silence that I will find the moments and time to take my breaths. We as mommies must find time to breathe, take our breaks and breaths and to stand still among the constant and continual swirling whirling chaos we call our journeys through motherhood. In doing so we regain our balance, find our focus and then are ready set, go forward with our best version of ourselves for our babies and families. I desire to strive to always give my very best to my babies and family as I continue on this journey of lifetime through my motherhood so I must seek the elusive rare luxuries and treasure them for myself and my babies and family so that they can continually be given the best I can give them. May we as homies always give and offer the best versions of ourselves as we continue on this journey of our motherhood.

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Taking a moment of slience for mommy please

I can remember growing up and my daddy wishing i would be quite more and stop chattering so much at times. I can remember saying to him, especially as I got older, well it’s your fault you two were the ones who decided when I was three to take me to speech therapy because my pediatrician was concerned over my ability to speak and my vocabulary level. So if you din’t want to me talk you should have never taken to speech therapy. It’s so funny to me that we as parent can at time get so tightly wand over things and then when they work out or take place we are like oh my gosh if my child doesn’t fill in the blank. This makes me think as a mommy that there are many expressions that we hear along our journey and there seems to be one that is foreign to children. The expression that comes to mind is that science is golden. Many of you ladies out there may be thinking is also foreign to me after becoming a mommy. I have come to realize that my babies don’t agree or understand and see the gold to be found in being silent.

In my journey as a mommy my babies have followed the expected pattern for speech development my daughter talked sooner and excelled quicker and to this day is a very articulate child. On the other hand my son had the doctors concerned as to his ability and level of speech but I thought I to wait until he turned two because I remember many of my girlfriends who had sons that said it was something about turning two and their boys took off and never looked back. Sure enough that was the case with my son as well and ever since turning two he hasn’t stopped and now he is currently 4. It is totally awesome to me and I absolutely love the chats and conversations I have with my babies and I love to hear what they think, see how there wonderful little minds work, how they see this amazing world and what matters to them. Then again at times if they are both talking at the same or talking to me while I’m trying to do other things especially more than one at a time I think of the gold to be found in silence. Other times I long for this elusive luxury is if I’m on the phone or talking to someone and I wish to do so uninterrupted. Moreover if my daughter is like what were you talking about mommy then I promptly say it was an A and B conversation and C your way out it. For me the reason while I long for at times this elusive luxury is that I miss being to focus, think clearly without always loosing my train of thought and be able to finish my sentence, never mind thought and never the less my point I was trying to articulate or communicate.

It is for these reasonings of wanting to have moments silence and longing for moments of silence or breaks in the chatter we can teach our babies lessons worth learning that are golden. In learning to be silent our babies can learn to be considerate, thoughtful, polite and respectful of others and what others need and need to say. Also the lessons of waiting your turn and have patience can be gained from the instances when our babies need to wait to speak or not interrupt when adults are talking. Also I know for me that when I can get out my thoughts and points and keep one in my head it helps to focus and stay centered. In waiting and letting someone have their turn and having patience our babies can learn the value and importance of being able to focus and concentrate on something and how helpful that can be and that also more can be achieved when focused on something.
People talk about the gold to found at the end of the rainbow as a mommy that is our pot of gold is to have moments of much needed silence. Maybe in the days of our lives as mommies maybe one our daily simple graces to be given this elusive pot of gold filled with moments of silence.

A solution for me in trying to achieve and gain this elusive luxury as a mommy sometimes you have to take what you can get when you can get or do it for your darn self. In my days in the life of being a mommy this may look like taking the moments of silence as they come whether in the early am before my day starts, or late at night before going to sleep. It can also be found in and during nap time or my bath time or on the treadmill working out. Currently for me my parents take the kids to spend time them often and so that gives me alone time and get to rare opportunities for this elusive luxury of enjoying my own pot of gold at the end of my rainbows in motherhood. Also with the elusive pot of gold I find in these moments I can also have the ability and time to focus, think through stuff and have precious and priceless uninterrupted conversation. In wanting and getting these golden moments of silence maybe we can see the mutual immense value to having such moments for ourselves as mommies and what our babies can gain to learn and understand. May I and we as fellow travelers on this journey of motherhood strive to treasure the chats and conversations with our babies but also to teach the lessons of there is much gold in being silent. May we find our own elusive pots of gold that are there to be had at the end of our luxurious rainbows for us to savor and be given even if nothing for our own sanity. Better yet our babies learning the importance and value of the gold to be found in being silence can make our pots of gold eve more valuable, savory, precious and priceless. May we strive to strike the balance between cherishing the chatter of our children and having savory moment of silence. May we and our babies learn that there is a time and place for everything and to see the value to be found in the pots of gold at the ends of each of our rainbows. Through this there is much beauty to behold in our journey through motherhood to treasure as we continue on our journey as mommies with our babies and families. May we always seek and discover the pots of gold to be found at the end our rainbows in our journey through motherhood.


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Please, Please oh to pee in peace


It has been said that in life that the best things in life are rare and worth waiting for and that good things come to those who wait. This makes me wonder and begs the question so okay so how long do I have to wait for the best things I need and want in my days on my journey as a mommy. I mean come on haven’t I waited long enough and I can’t wait any longer. If I do wait any longer I wont’t make it some days to receive the elusive luxuries I so long for. I’m not even sure that if I can remember the moments in BC years (before children) moments of peacefulness of quite and uninterrupted time and privacy to just simply go pee. Do any of you ladies remember that and what that was like I don’t it was too long ago. One of these day I will be able to remember and enjoy such an elusive luxury I and we ladies and mommies can dream can’t we.

How may times in day, how many days can we all say yes I hear sister and just to have a few moments to just simply go to the bathroom and not only that to do so without interruption. Furthermore to do so without being barraged in on or knocks on the door. Moreover I want to be able to get through using the bathroom without hearing mommy, mommy, mommy I need, I want, can you or guess what I just ….. fill int he never ending blank. I want to at some point not have to feel like I have to wait to midnight to go to the bathroom or even to bath just to do so without being interrupted. I mean why is it that when I just decide to take bath or shower its then and only then, even though my kids had just watched tv or played for 30 minutes without even so much as one mommy but let me get ready to bath then oh my gosh they can’t mange or do without or the world is coming to end. Now granted I get its a little harder expectation to have if you live in a place with just one bathroom like I use too but now with two bathroom I just want to say you can use the other bathroom. Also I can’t remember the last time that when I am out at stores or restaurants or anywhere in public where I didn’t have to take anybody else to the bathroom with me and I could go alone, by myself have privacy and quite to please, please oh to pee in peace.

In my contemplation of this elusive luxury that eludes me for so long in my days as a mommy I think it brings up some interesting points and questions for much motherhood food for thought. I think it is a reminder of just exactly how much we as mommies have to give and do so gladly for our families and the amount sacrifice motherhood involves. Although it also brings to mind the constant battle and immense struggle that is experience in motherhood by most of us ladies. As mommies and women there isn’t nothing we wouldn’t do for our babies and families. Most would say they would take a bullet, go through hell and back or to the end of the earth for their babies and families and die for their babies it would save their babies and families, In doing that out of the best labour of love we exhaust ourselves and completely empty and deplete ourselves and cups with nothing left. So where is the balance act between giving it all and yet finding the time to do even the simplest things for ourselves that we can refuel and replenish so that we can be the best movies for our babies and families who love more than life itself. Moreover how to find the balance without a huge helping of guilt left on the plates of our motherhood for just simpling wanting to have privacy and uninterrupted time to attend to me and my needs.

The answer to this, although harder said then done most times and for most of us ladies, lies in a few things. It lies in the realization of that in actuality that in us finding the time as mommies to get our elusive luxuries and attend to our needs we are being selfless and not selfish as often thought. You may be thinking hold on now we are the mommies, adults and care givers and care for all, true but think of it this way. If we truly want to be the very best version of ourselves for all, our babies and families then we have to make sure we can offer our best ourselves and have much to give. If we are empty, depleted, run down, burned out or exhausted there is noting to give so we cant give what we want to give to our families and babies. Moreover in taking time to do this for ourselves, babies and families we are teaching our babies the importance of waiting, having patients, caring for others and being mindful of other needs and not always being centered on self. The answer to achieving this prioritizing and managing our time and making wise choices in use of our time and prioritizing what to do with that time. Also thought in all this it more easily done with a great support system around us that will help remind us to do for ourselves and that sees the immense value and essential need of this taking place. Along this journey of motherhood we must not loose ourselves along the way. We must care for ourselves so that we can always give our best for those who we love and give the best version of ourselves. May we always find, grab and savor the elusive luxuries. May we always ensure we are our best we can be for ourselves, our babies and our families. May we always go forward with putting our best foot forward in our motherhood by always striving to our best and give in our best to our babies and families who we love more than life itself.


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