The Big “M” word
In current popular dating culture many times there is much surrounding the big ‘M’ word “ooooh” marriage and for some it seems oh so mysterious and scary; and it is treated as the big elephant in the relationship room. At times I have wondered if in certain current Christians circles or the church if we can relate in that it seems to be the same around our own big ‘M’ word meditation/mediating “ooooh” scary. Concerning the big M word of marriage in pop culture there are a multitude of misnomers, misunderstanding and myths likewise we find this to be true for individuals who are, as popularly known as, or have phobias or fears of commitment or intimacy. The reason for these phobias or fears more times than not, potentially, goes back to their childhood or family background, bad past experiences and the residual effects that might have potentially come from either or both. In the case of the church, it’s more like potential misgivings from the wrong impression an individual may have drawn for whatever reason. A particular person may have images or thoughts of different religious or cultures that use the word mediation also but in different manners or methods for different purposes and objectives. In rectifying and restoring the right image or impression and conquering ones fear mediation one must reprogram the misleading myths of mediation.
One of the biggest myths and things some might have heard is that an idle mind leads to evil or temptation; however mediation is not being idle. Mediation or meditating by nature and definition is a verb and a word of action that requires focused intended action. Meditation is the intended act of the focusing an individual’s thoughts and mind concentrating in efforts to ponder, think on, consider, reflect and contemplate on specific subject or matters in order to come to an understanding or comprehension of its meaning or significance. By extension prayer is active, intended and focused effort of consideration of, reflecting on, contemplating, pondering and reflecting upon one’s adoration, confession, supplications, thanksgiving, scriptures themselves and what God is trying to say or impress upon us as His children and followers.
It is no coincident that both marriage and mediation is discussed at length in scriptures for marriage is mentioned numerous times along with being used as a metaphor in several parts of scriptures furthermore the whole book of Song of Solomon was a beautiful metaphorical portrait of marriage and the mirror image of our relationship with God. Mediation or prayer is was an essential and significant part of Jesus’ minster and message. Jesus on several occasions would pull away to pray and mediate not to mention in both Mathew Jesus talk us to pray by giving us the model prayer in Matthew 6: 9-13. Also in John 17 was Christ prayer to God in the Garden of Gethsemane before being crucified. Both of these are descriptive portraits and metaphors of union and the beauty to be found in each union either union of marriage or with God. As it is says in the Psalms “May these words of my mouth and this meditation of my heart be pleasing in your sight, Lord, my Rock and my Redeemer” (Psalm 19:14 NIV). Having true union in marriage we are given a metaphorical illustration of what God desires for us to have with Him and when we are in constant, continual, 24/7 communications or communion in everything we do and in every aspect of our lives talking, walking with and have a cup of coffee, while having constant conservation, with our Holy Father we can have union with Him.
I have to wonder if the culprit for this in both popular dating culture and the church or Christian circles is due to a lack of understanding then causing fear of marriage and mediation or prayer. Often times what we fear is what we do not understand. Maybe if we substitute passion for marriage being totally in love and having passion for that person in every aspect and area of life together; or substituted mediation/meditation for active intended conservation that is continual and constant conversation talking with that person or God 24/7 for commitment and remembering that mediation is the very action of prayer, then things would not seem so scary – we just might come to a knowledgeable understanding of both, realizing that it is in the focused intended action concentrated on constant, continual, passionate commitment to conversation with God and mediation on God and things of Him we will achieve the union and intimacy we all truly seek as out.