Making Lemonade out of Lemons in My Motherhood
In life there are seasons that taste sweet as a plum or an apple and sugar then also there are seasons that taste as bitter and sour as a grapefruit or a lime and a lemon. The sourness and bitterness of grapefruits or lemons is enough to make you want to spit them out of your mouth and turn up your nose and not taste one again. Equally the sweetness a plum or an apple makes you want to savor every bit and ounce of flavor. Either of these on their own can be almost to much of either the sweetness of the apple and equally for the bitterness of the lemon. Each of these give one type of flavor, taste or sensation but in combing the sweet and sour together it creates this whole other new incredible flavor, taste and sensation of lemonade. In the journey of life this is much the same in what we experience in the seasons of true sweetness and utter bitterness and other seasons of bittersweetness. Its often in those season of bittersweetness that we can find a different experience and things anew things and seasons we never the experience before. As a new mommy on my journey in motherhood I can say it is as in life so it is in motherhood.
I as a mommy know in my efforts to teach my daughter about how life is I have tried to teach and show her how to make lemonade out of the lemons she is given. This life lesson can be equally taught in the numerous small and big moments of life. Also this helps our children see how to work through these feelings and situations. Moreover it also helps our babies to use the valley moments of disappointment or sadness and to see the brighter side and turn into a moment on their own mountaintop. One of the numerous teachable moments of this life lesson is that if my daughter’s plans of a play date didn’t work out I might say to her yes this is not fun, its hard and disappointing but that just means that you will have something to look forward to in the future and in this moment we get to do something fun together. If her plans were ruined due to weather then we would have fun inside or elsewhere like it would be a great day for movie night. Also if there was something that she wanted that the store or restaurant was out of it and didn’t have it then this was a good chance to try something new and she could make a new discovery. If we were supposed to do something as a family with daddy but couldn’t for whatever reason I would say let’s do something fun together at home that we don’t usually do. Also I would suggest that let’s look at this change of plans as a chance to learn, show and extend understanding, patience, compassion or empathy for daddy in not being able do what he originally plan or for mommy who meant to make muffins and couldn’t get to it until tomorrow. These are just a few ways in the big and small moments that I would try to teach this life lesson to my daughter among the countless other moments in which this lesson could be taught. I have tired to teach her the value of seeing the bright side of things or finding the positive in things and life. True while this is not always simple or easy and often times easier say than done. That’s why I think it a great tool to have in life and if we as mommies can show and teach our babies this we will give them and instill them a great tool and perspective to have in life for tackling the challenges, struggles and problems that come their way in this life and world.
In my efforts in teaching my daughter this immensely invaluable life lesson I must wonder how can I as a mommy demonstrate this for her and show her how I make my own lemonade out of the lemons that are hand to me in motherhood and life. I can remember one time it was our 5th wedding anniversary and we couldn’t get a babysitter and I was disappointed but we ended up spending a great night in eating a great home cook Italian meal made by husband and watched a truly romantic movie together on the couch snuggled together while drinking some wine and it was amazing. Also at times when my daughter’s playdate plans change so do mine because the mother of her friend for the playdate is one of my dearest friends so just as my daughter doesn’t get to visit with her friend neither do I and so we, my daughter and I, do some mommy daughter time together and have a great day. One way as a mommy I have turned my lemons into lemonade is that when it’s a bad day with my daughter she is acting crazy and acting out, not listening, testing my patience, nothing goes right and I cant get anything done at end of the day she goes to bed early I use this teachable moment and make she know I love her more than anything and always will no matter what. I have turned the days of lemons into my glass of lemonade by how I responded to the situation handled it with my daughter and I get to have quite mommy time doing what I like and enjoy to do or spend time with my husband.
Another example of one of the greatest ways of turning lemons into lemonade is how I have done and are doing this is what I have done throughout my whole life. I was born totally and completely blind but at 7 months old gained, although still impaired, most of my sight. There were several things my eye physicians told me I would never be able to do in my life. Although I can say I have graduated from high school, college with a B.A. with a 2.75 and higher and also I have my M.A. and graduated with honors. I am a published author of an earlier book and raised my daughter. Aside from all of this from my own held religious belief and point of view of this all being done by the grace of God and through his good mercies and blessing it has been done with and through immense and constant, hard work, dedication, will power, tenacity, determination and perseverance. Anything that I have achieved would not have been achieved if not through God and my continued and endless effort. I say all this not to toot my own horn but to give example to my efforts to teach, show and demonstrate as a mommy to my daughter how to in life make your own glass or pitcher of lemonade with the lemons life will give you. In the end of my day with these numerous examples I have strived to turn make the most of what has been given to and find the good in this life. I’ve taken the sour, the negative and lemon and turned into something sweet, positive and into my own glass of lemonade. In doing this I have caught my breathe and had a chance to take my sips thus feel focused, centered, balance and sane and taught my daughter an immense valuable life lesson to take with her along her own life’s journey.
In learning how to make my own glass of lemonade out of the lemons I have been given on my journey as a mother I have to wonder if this is a meter for measuring me as a mommy, my motherhood and the foundation of the house of cards of motherhood that I am building for me, my daughter and my family. This being said a mommy mountaintop moment for me would be when I show her how to make the best of things, see the brighter side and positive in things and keep making lemonade in life, as a mommy and for my family. I know if I can do this for myself as a women and as a mommy then I will teach and instill an immensely invaluable lesson to my daughter that she can take with her along her own journey. May I as a mommy always find ways to see the bright and positive side of things and keeping making lemonade for myself, my daughter and family. May we as mothers always have the courage, insight and vision, wisdom and strength, even when it is not easy, to make glasses of lemonade for our babies and families so that they will in their own lives and journeys have one of the best recipes for a strong foundation and a good, healthy and happy life.