It has been said that in life that the best things in life are rare and worth waiting for and that good things come to those who wait. This makes me wonder and begs the question so okay so how long do I have to wait for the best things I need and want in my days on my journey as a mommy. I mean come on haven’t I waited long enough and I can’t wait any longer. If I do wait any longer I wont’t make it some days to receive the elusive luxuries I so long for. I’m not even sure that if I can remember the moments in BC years (before children) moments of peacefulness of quite and uninterrupted time and privacy to just simply go pee. Do any of you ladies remember that and what that was like I don’t it was too long ago. One of these day I will be able to remember and enjoy such an elusive luxury I and we ladies and mommies can dream can’t we.
How may times in day, how many days can we all say yes I hear sister and just to have a few moments to just simply go to the bathroom and not only that to do so without interruption. Furthermore to do so without being barraged in on or knocks on the door. Moreover I want to be able to get through using the bathroom without hearing mommy, mommy, mommy I need, I want, can you or guess what I just ….. fill int he never ending blank. I want to at some point not have to feel like I have to wait to midnight to go to the bathroom or even to bath just to do so without being interrupted. I mean why is it that when I just decide to take bath or shower its then and only then, even though my kids had just watched tv or played for 30 minutes without even so much as one mommy but let me get ready to bath then oh my gosh they can’t mange or do without or the world is coming to end. Now granted I get its a little harder expectation to have if you live in a place with just one bathroom like I use too but now with two bathroom I just want to say you can use the other bathroom. Also I can’t remember the last time that when I am out at stores or restaurants or anywhere in public where I didn’t have to take anybody else to the bathroom with me and I could go alone, by myself have privacy and quite to please, please oh to pee in peace.
In my contemplation of this elusive luxury that eludes me for so long in my days as a mommy I think it brings up some interesting points and questions for much motherhood food for thought. I think it is a reminder of just exactly how much we as mommies have to give and do so gladly for our families and the amount sacrifice motherhood involves. Although it also brings to mind the constant battle and immense struggle that is experience in motherhood by most of us ladies. As mommies and women there isn’t nothing we wouldn’t do for our babies and families. Most would say they would take a bullet, go through hell and back or to the end of the earth for their babies and families and die for their babies it would save their babies and families, In doing that out of the best labour of love we exhaust ourselves and completely empty and deplete ourselves and cups with nothing left. So where is the balance act between giving it all and yet finding the time to do even the simplest things for ourselves that we can refuel and replenish so that we can be the best movies for our babies and families who love more than life itself. Moreover how to find the balance without a huge helping of guilt left on the plates of our motherhood for just simpling wanting to have privacy and uninterrupted time to attend to me and my needs.
The answer to this, although harder said then done most times and for most of us ladies, lies in a few things. It lies in the realization of that in actuality that in us finding the time as mommies to get our elusive luxuries and attend to our needs we are being selfless and not selfish as often thought. You may be thinking hold on now we are the mommies, adults and care givers and care for all, true but think of it this way. If we truly want to be the very best version of ourselves for all, our babies and families then we have to make sure we can offer our best ourselves and have much to give. If we are empty, depleted, run down, burned out or exhausted there is noting to give so we cant give what we want to give to our families and babies. Moreover in taking time to do this for ourselves, babies and families we are teaching our babies the importance of waiting, having patients, caring for others and being mindful of other needs and not always being centered on self. The answer to achieving this prioritizing and managing our time and making wise choices in use of our time and prioritizing what to do with that time. Also thought in all this it more easily done with a great support system around us that will help remind us to do for ourselves and that sees the immense value and essential need of this taking place. Along this journey of motherhood we must not loose ourselves along the way. We must care for ourselves so that we can always give our best for those who we love and give the best version of ourselves. May we always find, grab and savor the elusive luxuries. May we always ensure we are our best we can be for ourselves, our babies and our families. May we always go forward with putting our best foot forward in our motherhood by always striving to our best and give in our best to our babies and families who we love more than life itself.