I am not a Octopus with 8 arms, 5 hands and 6 legs
One of the most interesting things I think I find as a mommy and love to see, watch and experience with my babies is seeing how they evolve, change and grow. For example as our babies get older and change how do their interest and likes change. As I write this chapter currently my daughter is 8 and loves, loves, loves Mermaids, reading, unicorns, my little pony and is all girl. My son is currently 5 and is all boy. He loves, loves, loves, animals, insects/bugs, dinosaurs and oh my goodness how he adores his sea creatures. You might be wondering as you read this where is she going with this but here you go. I have learned as a mommy of and now, for the last 5 years, of two babies that we mamas have oh so many, at times feels like to many to count or juggle, roles we have to do and balance. I have often wonder how and when can I get all my jobs and roles done because there is only so much of me and so much in day. So I ask what is a mama to do with this motherhood dilemma.
In continuing my journey through motherhood I have found that one of my not so favorite things, are if you can relate, is being asked for one thing after another after another on top of each other. Better yet being asked for multiple things all he same time. A daily example of this would, I thought I’m sure you ladies know what I’m talking about, both of my babies saying mama I want, I want, we want … for dinner, to drink, toy to play with, thing to do, story to read, want to want and so forth with endless fill in the blank examples. I think I can I please do one thing at a time. Moreover and I please do one thing first before being asked for something else. I mean really how much do my babies think I can do at a time. I found myself saying and my babies have heard me say more time then they probably would like to count. Mommy is not an Octopus I don’t have 8 arms, 5. hands and 6 legs. My son just giggles when I say this. I wondering if he is picturing what I would look like with 8 arms, 5 hands and 6 legs. Anyway I usually also respond with I’ve only got two hands one thing at a time please.
I don’t know about you ladies but I’m more than so very glad that I’m not an octopus. Can you only imagine if we can’t get everything done with two arms how much we would have to do, manage and balance with 8 arms. Makes me tired just thinking about it is it bedtime yet. I do equally find much value for babies and mamas alike in us mamas not being octopuses. There are to major intensely valuable lessons to be learned by us not being octopuses. The lesson to be learned by my babies in not having an octopus for a mama is a couple of things. As a direct result of me not being an octopus and having the ability to do everything at one time they learn how to be patience. They learn how to wait your turn to get something. They learn and understand that in some cases good things come to those who wait. Each of theses lessons will serve my babies well in life and prepare therm for the world. I feel that having patience and learning to wait or take turns teaches my babies it’s not all about you and the world doesn’t revolve around you. There are other people in the world and we must be considerate and thoughtful of others. It also instills in them that you can’t always have what you want when you want. Also involved is the ability to learn to delay instant gratification. In waiting and having patience my babies can learn to be understanding, polite, thoughtful and considerate of others. All of these lessons I find much value in for my babies and their preparation for the real world
Okay fellow mama we don’t get a free get out of learning something card, or at least I don’t. In my journey through motherhood I have found that not having 8 arms and not being an octopus is a huge benefit to me as well even one of my main saving graces. For me being only one person/mama, wth two hands, two feet and two arms with a 24 hour day has taught me that is’s okay to not do everything at once for everyone all the tiem. I have learned I don’t have to or nor can I please everyone all the time. Also as a mama it’s not my job to ensure that everyone is happy or pleased all the time. Another beyond world priceless lessons for me is learning that if I don’t do any and everything for everyone at one time the world is not going to stop spinning or come crashing down and fall apart. All of these life lessons have taught me to learn how, which has my motherhood lifeline of sanity, to prioritize and make the most of the time I have to get all my mama roles done. The byproduct of learning these priceless immensely invaluable motherhood lessons is that as a mama I’m more sane, focused, centered, balanced, less overwhelmed, frazzled and stressed. In having learned the knowledge of these motherhood lessons I’m able to strive to be the best mama I can be for my babies and family. May we all be glad not have to be octopuses as mamas. May we all strive to do and be our very best selves as mama and for our family as we journey forward in our own motherhood journey.